I think it was the TV drama “Grey’s Anatomy” that introduced the term ‘my person.’ One of the doctors on the show needed a best-friend, yet was not so good at the friend thing being she was so driven, yet needed to choose a person to basically be and do the things a best-friend does. So, she began calling this other doctor, ‘my person,’ and the term has been picked up and amplified as relationships have been formed and fostered. This definition of human interaction has morphed into being that person you tend to think of or go to for just about everything. They are the person you enjoy being with and love to share life with. They tend to be the first person you want to call, text, or contact when something amazing just happened or the worst thing imaginable. They are also the person you can get so quickly annoyed at, yet can’t stay mad at. This person could be a spouse, a sibling, a best-friend, a boy-friend, a girl-friend, someone who you are safe being crazy with, laughing until it hurts with, and crying that ugly-cry that only your person has seen.
Having a person is a choice to go beyond the connection of shared experiences like growing up together or sharing a similar life stage. Calling someone ‘my person’ is a commitment to love so deeply you truly open up the core of who you are being gut-level honest, open, and authentic with them. This commitment sticks through thick and thin regardless of how weird or socially embarrassing (at times) they may be. In those times you throw your arms around them and explain to the on-lookers, ”they’re ‘my person” and move on like this is normal life.
The truth is, we all could use a person in our life; someone to let us know when we have bad breath, someone to call when we just want to talk, someone to just sit with us when we don’t want to say anything, someone to celebrate or commiserate with, someone to be both brutally honest and truthfully affirming. Do you have a person like that? Are you a person like that?
I was in a local coffee shop waiting for my drink and noticed some men out for some coffee. One slapped the other on the back and said, “How are you?” The other man, who had just been laughing at a joke the back-slapping guy had shared, suddenly changed his smiling expression as his eye brows furrowed, his look went blank. His smile went into a concerned line. The hand of the other man moved from the back slap to his friend’s shoulder and he bent down so their eyes could connect. “Did the results come in?” The answer was a nod. “And?…,” came the question. The nod turned into a head shake meaning no or not good. “I am so sorry. Come on. Let’s get out of here.” The guy gripped the man’s arm as his look spoke pain, bewilderment, and words only these two knew. “We got this…” was what came out as they walked out. I was so glad this guy has a person.
The Bible encourages us to step into that level of relationships.
1 Peter 4:8-9 8 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 9 Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.
Ephesians 4:2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love,
Ephesians 4:32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.
Romans 12:9-10 9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
There is another great story of being someone’s person in the Bible book of Mark 2:1-12. Check it out as these ‘persons’ help someone in great need. Sure it takes some vulnerability, time, energy, effort and a self-less focus, but it is well worth it. I wonder how different our world would be if more people had a person.
Church can be a good environment both to find a person and learn how to be that kind of person. If you do not have a church you regularly attend, I would like to invite you to ours. Our website has information about our various campuses: www.cypresschurch.net .
Being thankful for ‘my person’ along with you,